“In many cultures throughout history, a teenage boy is taken through some type of ritual to mark his official passage into manhood. I believe one of the greatest tragedies of Western culture today is the absence of this type of ceremony.” Dr Robert Lewis (Author) from his best-selling book, “Raising a Modern Day Knight”
“Every knight remembers his dubbing as the first day of his existence.” Georges Duby (French, influential Medieval Historian, specializing in the social and economic history of the Middle Ages)
Ceremony marks the transition from one season to another. It says powerfully, forcefully, and regally, “From this point forward, life is going to be different!”
The most incredible man I’ve ever met would have to be Dr Robert Lewis. He is a man who has lived well. He has lived a life of great strength and courage, honour and integrity. He’s been like a father to me... a mentor... and I’m honoured to call him a friend. In Robert’s best-selling book, “Raising a Modern Day Knight”... he lists four common characteristics that every good ceremony possesses. I felt it important to share them here...
- Memorable ceremonies are costly. The more time, thought, planning, effort, and money you give to a celebration, the more memorable it will be. Memorability grows in proportion to cost. The more you give, the greater the impact.
- Memorable ceremonies ascribe value. By setting aside time, making an effort, spending money, and employing meaningful ceremony, we declare the high value of an individual. Effective ceremony says, you are important! And this moment is important!
- Memorable ceremonies employ symbols.
- Memorable ceremonies empower a life with vision.
One of my personal favourite moments from each of our 5 Night Father-Son Adventures, would have to be the Initiation Ceremony on the final evening. The look upon the face of every son who kneels before his father, as he listens intently to what it is his father is calling him out of (boyhood), and up and into (the higher ground of authentic manhood), is simply priceless. Their eyes are always as wide as saucers. It is a moment in that young man’s life’s journey that he will never forget, for as long as he lives. The culmination of a week of adventure & fun, and training & instruction, alongside his Dad or significant male other, within a community of men... sealed by a ceremony. Now that’s a real process of initiation in action.
You can find a list of dates for all of our upcoming 5 Night Father-Son Adventures, and all of our Father-Son and Father-Daughter Adventure Weekends too for that matter... here... http://fatheringadventures.squarespace.com/upcoming-adventures/ . And you can read more testimonials from fathers & sons, and see more photos, from one of our past 5 Night Father-Son Adventures here... http://fatheringadventures.squarespace.com/blog/2011/7/13/inside-one-of-our-5-night-father-son-adventures.html . And finally, you can watch our short video in the form of a movie trailer here... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6y_hM88u3ag .
For those of us who are married... we’ve experienced first-hand the power and weightiness of ceremony and celebration. But how many of you have experienced such a ceremony and celebration when it came to your journey to become a man? We’d love to hear from you.